Getting over a breakup is hard, no question about it. It’s depressing to end a relationship and even more depressing to find yourself with all this free time to sit and think about it. I’m not someone who likes to dwell on the past, so this feeling made me restless. I was also feeling lonely a lot, but here’s the thing: I was hesitant to just jump into hookups and casual dating again. It seemed like a glum enterprise, drunkenly falling into bed with someone I barely knew, as fun as it would be in the moment, but then waking up in the morning to awkwardly say our farewells, wondering if I’d be ghosted or if we even had anything in common. Having been down that road before a few times, I’d lost interest. Also, I’m into some pretty freaky shit. I wasn’t sure I could go pick someone up at a bar and ask for just what I truly needed. Eventually, I had the idea to try kinky phone sex. I was already saving money from not going out, so I could afford to indulge. The chatlines I looked up online all offered a 30-minute free trial, so I could browse the services and see what fit. Sharing your fantasies is such a huge turn on, and I didn’t even have to leave my house. It was better than tinder, no more awkward dates and bedmates. I could just have a glass of wine and a hot kinky chat on my mobile phone at the and of the day. I could finally talk to people about all the fantasies I had and share the sexy dreams I’d been having, which had been happening a lot since I’d been single. It felt so cathartic and pleasurable. Eventually, when I started dating again I found myself with a whole new sexual confidence!